“The father's intransigence and constant incitement”
- Name
- Heba Khaled (pseudonym)
- Region
- Ramallah
- Age
- 53 years
- Children
- A daughter aged 17 and a son aged 19
- Marital status
- Divorced
“Why should I, as a mother who was beside my children, watched them grow up in front of me and endured everything for them all these years, suddenly be deprived of seeing them?”
Heba did not hide her enthusiasm for the campaign to raise the custody age to 18, hoping that this decision would allow her to stay close to her son and daughter for additional years…
Heba did not hide her enthusiasm for the campaign to raise the custody age to 18, hoping that this decision would allow her to stay close to her son and daughter for additional years, especially her daughter, who she believes needs her most at this sensitive age. She lives in constant worry about them, after spending a whole year before the separation, which she sought after continuous violence by her husband, in the courts in cases of discord and dispute, and another year after the divorce until today trying to see her daughter and son and keep in contact with them. She finds it very hard to accept the idea of being deprived of seeing them because they are over 15. “Why should I, as a mother who was beside my children, watched them grow up in front of me and endured everything for them all these years, suddenly be deprived of seeing them?” Today she is trying to confront the father's intransigence and his constant incitement of his son and daughter against her by tarnishing her reputation and punishing them if they try to contact her. She says: “I used to hear him cut into the line when they were talking to me, scold them, say bad things about me and hang up.”
Heba thinks a great deal about the psychological and social pressure that her son and daughter face after her separation from her husband, and his insistence on using them as a means of punishing their mother by inciting them against her and preventing them from contacting her, while Heba lives with a mix of painful emotions: fear for her son's and daughter's future, constant worry about them, and her efforts to see them or contact them in accordance with the law.