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Campaign

Together We Rise

To raise the custody age to 18

This campaign aims to press for and influence amendments to the laws that govern custody in the Personal Status Law, and to raise the custody age to 18 for both boys and girls.

A fair demand

Some husbands and wives are forced to make a difficult decision such as divorce after repeated attempts to preserve their marriage and to overcome growing problems or challenges, in order to protect the rights of their sons and daughters and spare them from living in a tense family environment that may harm their psychological wellbeing, their education and their social behaviour. However, a large proportion of separated couples insist on turning this decision into a bitter war, during which the wife and the husband, in particular, use every form of pressure and humiliation to make the other party regret it, or out of revenge. In many cases they use their sons and daughters as a means of pressure and blackmail to deprive the custodian, whether the father or the mother, of the right to custody, or to deprive women and their daughters and sons of their right to maintenance.

The best interest of the child

For this reason, many human rights and feminist organisations believe that raising the age of a mother's custody of her sons and daughters to 18 would spare them, at this sensitive age, from going through this mix of conflicting emotions and disputes, which harms their mental health and their view of, and respect for, family bonds in the future. It would give them the opportunity to remain in the custody of the mother, or of the custodian who serves their best interest, for as long as possible, especially girls, who prefer to be close to their mothers during this age full of psychological, hormonal and physical changes, and who do not enjoy the same freedom of choice, which is conditional on losing the guardian's maintenance once they reach the legal age. It would also prevent women from being forced to bargain away their rights in exchange for their children. In other words, raising the custody age would protect the best interest of boys and girls and the rights of women, ensure a dignified life for them, and guarantee girls their right to maintenance even if the guardian abandons them.

The Palestinian Maintenance Fund

It is a sovereign, non-ministerial body that reports to the Prime Minister, has legal personality and an independent budget. It seeks to eliminate gender-based discrimination and to empower groups that the law does not treat fairly, by supporting and assisting beneficiary groups in claiming their rights, securing the right to maintenance for its beneficiaries, and recovering the money paid from those legally obliged to pay it.

The Fund aims to guarantee the enforcement of maintenance rulings that cannot be enforced because the person ordered to pay is absent, their place of residence is unknown, there are no assets from which the ruling can be enforced, or for any other reason.

Number of people eligible for the Fund's services in 2020

Historical figure for 2020, not current statistics.

16,454eligible beneficiaries (women and men)

Real-life stories and testimonies

  • “You know, honestly, if he asked about them, or cared about them, or took them, or if they would be well looked after with him, I would say fine, he is their father, let them go to him once custody ends. But honestly, he doesn't even ask about them.”
    — Shahira Bajes
  • “At the very least, the boy stays in my arms and with me. When he is 18 he will be aware, and no one will be able to fool him.”
    — Rana Abu Obeid

Story 1 of 5: Heba

Symbolic illustration accompanying Heba's testimony

“The father's intransigence and constant incitement”

Name
Heba Khaled (pseudonym)
Region
Ramallah
Age
53 years
Children
A daughter aged 17 and a son aged 19
Marital status
Divorced
“Why should I, as a mother who was beside my children, watched them grow up in front of me and endured everything for them all these years, suddenly be deprived of seeing them?”
— Heba Khaled

Heba did not hide her enthusiasm for the campaign to raise the custody age to 18, hoping that this decision would allow her to stay close to her son and daughter for additional years…

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